Dare to cross the line
This is the story of Ayesha, a young christian immigrant who dared to cross the lines of her continent. In 2016, AYesha met her now husband through a mutual friend and thus began a long and beautiful journey that led to their marriage. During this time, neither herself nor her husband had a long term visa or permit to stay in the USA. He (her husband) had moved to the States for study and afterwards, begun to search for opportunities while still furthering his studies.
This was the period that the new government under the leadership of Donald Trump was elected. Things got scary and difficult for the new couple. Ayesha was still in her home country. In fact her husband had just started thinking of marrying her. Many people told him he was shooting himself in the foot. He didn’t have a permanent staying visa. He just got a H1b which was just as well as if he was clearly not supposed to be in the country. The proper and “wise” thing to do, according to his friends was to get married quickly to a citizen of the country and stamp his residency rather than make things more difficult by trying to bring in another immigrant.
We shall call Ayesha’s husband Damien. Damien didn’t give in to the suggestion of the people around him. He knew what he wanted to do and what his heart really wanted and so, regardless of how it may seem, he declined the advances of the few Americans who were willing to “save” hi from his predicament. Yes, there were women who were ready and happy to marry him and offer him a more permanent stay in the US as a citizen. All of Damien’s friends sealed their fates quickly in the wake of the rising immigration policies in the new dispensation.
Damien liked Ayesha a lot and didn’t care. He started to work towards marriage and then the challenges began. Ayesha’s parents were not having it because they believed their daughter deserved a person who had not been gone for so long, a person who would stay where they could be within reach and monitor how they’re daughter was being treated. The process was long and arduous. At some point, it seemed like they should go their separate ways as everything was so difficult. .
Ayesha also feared that life in the USA would be different and she might not enjoy it. She wasn’t accustomed to living without structure or some kind of control. Anyway, she loved Damien and that overpowered whatever doubts she might have. Damien never ceased to show his selfless love too and before long the families had come to understand that they were meant to be together. With prayers and encouragement they allowed the couples tie the knot.
Ayesha has a lot of fears. Some are very irrational. She could be afraid of a loud noise coming from a second room. The fears are not intentional and nothing she could do to stop it. They happened anyway. However, She’s learned to take actions despite the fears. Immediately they got married, they filed for spousal visa for her. More fears arose that she might not be approved. However, in less than two weeks, and this was during the festive holiday period, she was approved. She arrived amidst fears for what the States might look like, the godly/moral and pervasive influence of the people around her. More so, the renewal of Damien’s H1b was close by. They didn’t know if at this time, approval be possible. It was already three years into President Trumps administration. However, to their surprise, In three months, the approval came through. Damien had been renewed for another three years and his workplace confirmed him continue to work.
Ayesha realized that her life was going to happen and that good things would continue to take place in her life, regardless of her fears or insecurities and whether she liked it or not. She decided then to give up on fighting, to stop endless, unnecessary worrying. Ayesha still finds it hard to not panic for simple reasons but she doesn’t beat herself up when it happens. Rather she acknowledges that she’s afraid and allows herself experience the feelings. She also knows to let it go when she’s done feeling low.
Just recently, Ayesha had to go to her husband’s work place for an event and all the way over there she was horribly scared. She couldn’t understand why, except that she was anxious and didn’t know how to react to people if they spoke to her. The day went okay anyway and it was one of those moments that may not have been pleasant but had been filed as past occurrences. Now she moves on to greater things.
Be like Ayesha. Good things will happen whether you want it or not.
This was the period that the new government under the leadership of Donald Trump was elected. Things got scary and difficult for the new couple. Ayesha was still in her home country. In fact her husband had just started thinking of marrying her. Many people told him he was shooting himself in the foot. He didn’t have a permanent staying visa. He just got a H1b which was just as well as if he was clearly not supposed to be in the country. The proper and “wise” thing to do, according to his friends was to get married quickly to a citizen of the country and stamp his residency rather than make things more difficult by trying to bring in another immigrant.
We shall call Ayesha’s husband Damien. Damien didn’t give in to the suggestion of the people around him. He knew what he wanted to do and what his heart really wanted and so, regardless of how it may seem, he declined the advances of the few Americans who were willing to “save” hi from his predicament. Yes, there were women who were ready and happy to marry him and offer him a more permanent stay in the US as a citizen. All of Damien’s friends sealed their fates quickly in the wake of the rising immigration policies in the new dispensation.Damien liked Ayesha a lot and didn’t care. He started to work towards marriage and then the challenges began. Ayesha’s parents were not having it because they believed their daughter deserved a person who had not been gone for so long, a person who would stay where they could be within reach and monitor how they’re daughter was being treated. The process was long and arduous. At some point, it seemed like they should go their separate ways as everything was so difficult. .
Ayesha also feared that life in the USA would be different and she might not enjoy it. She wasn’t accustomed to living without structure or some kind of control. Anyway, she loved Damien and that overpowered whatever doubts she might have. Damien never ceased to show his selfless love too and before long the families had come to understand that they were meant to be together. With prayers and encouragement they allowed the couples tie the knot.
Ayesha has a lot of fears. Some are very irrational. She could be afraid of a loud noise coming from a second room. The fears are not intentional and nothing she could do to stop it. They happened anyway. However, She’s learned to take actions despite the fears. Immediately they got married, they filed for spousal visa for her. More fears arose that she might not be approved. However, in less than two weeks, and this was during the festive holiday period, she was approved. She arrived amidst fears for what the States might look like, the godly/moral and pervasive influence of the people around her. More so, the renewal of Damien’s H1b was close by. They didn’t know if at this time, approval be possible. It was already three years into President Trumps administration. However, to their surprise, In three months, the approval came through. Damien had been renewed for another three years and his workplace confirmed him continue to work.
Ayesha realized that her life was going to happen and that good things would continue to take place in her life, regardless of her fears or insecurities and whether she liked it or not. She decided then to give up on fighting, to stop endless, unnecessary worrying. Ayesha still finds it hard to not panic for simple reasons but she doesn’t beat herself up when it happens. Rather she acknowledges that she’s afraid and allows herself experience the feelings. She also knows to let it go when she’s done feeling low.
Just recently, Ayesha had to go to her husband’s work place for an event and all the way over there she was horribly scared. She couldn’t understand why, except that she was anxious and didn’t know how to react to people if they spoke to her. The day went okay anyway and it was one of those moments that may not have been pleasant but had been filed as past occurrences. Now she moves on to greater things.
Be like Ayesha. Good things will happen whether you want it or not.
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